Mom-dating can be very similar to real dating. It’s all about finding that perfect fit. You know, depending on your style of “mommy-ing,” things can get a little complicated.
I didn’t really consider trying to meet other Mom friends as dating until recently when I became very casual friends with another Mom whose daughter attends the same high school as mine. We chatted during soccer games, sent texts occasionally and seemed to hit it off. Or so I thought.
All was well until one day I received a call from her explaining that our dynamic wasn’t working out. Her explanation was because I own a business, had more kids than her. Uh, ok…
While I fully appreciate her honesty, I really wasn’t sure why she felt the need to tell me these things. It’s not like we were full-blown friends who go to dinner, get pedicures together or anything else that actual friends do. But that’s when it hit me – we were Mom dating.
Making friends isn’t the easiest thing to do, especially if you’re a Mom. Life gets really busy with work, ever-changing schedules, kids, sporting events, lunch making, PTA meetings, booger-wiping, house cleaning… I mean, let’s keep it real, the list is forever long. Trying to fit and maintain really good friendships into the mix is hard.
While I don’t have a ton of advice on this whole Mom-dating stuff as it’s completely new to me, I will say, don’t give up on trying to find your kind of people. They are out there! They may not share your exact same tastes or interests, but that’s ok. They don’t have to.
A few ways to easily Mom date and find new friends:
- Find group activities for Moms
There are all kinds of Mom & kids group activities that can vary depending on what you enjoy. The library usually has story time or puppet shoes while a lot of the craft stores have “Make & Takes.” Google what you and your kids enjoy doing and a fun group activity is sure to pop up.
2. Meet your neighbors
Take a peek at who your kids are playing with. If their mom is around, walk over and start talking. It’s good to put yourself out there. Many other Moms are wanting more friends and what better friend than a neighbor.
3. Go online
There are a ton of apps, forums and Facebook groups filled with Moms looking for other Moms to hang out with.
Trust me when I say, I need to take my own advice. I want this year to be more focused on having more meaningful relationships. It’s not about how many friends you have as much as it is the connection.
So what are you waiting for? Get out there and start Mom dating!